Overcoming narcissistic abuse

My self-development journey began when I discovered Reiki in 2015. I studied and qualified as a Reiki Master, and that sparked a spiritual awakening. Around that time I was also in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. My self-worth was non-existent. I was miserable, and tapping into my lack of self-love prompted me to start opening my eyes to the illusion of love that wasn’t real. When I left, the illusion shattered and I realized I had escaped a karmic bond where I had been covertly emotionally abused. We call ourselves survivors of narcissistic abuse because the stark reality is that not everybody survives this type of covert abuse. The superpower I gained from the experience was that I will never put another person’s needs over my self-worth and self-love again. I took time to do some deep healing, and once I had rebuilt my self-worth to the point that I would rather be alone than settle for anything less than soulmate love, my future husband appeared. I know for sure that my narcissistic relationship was an essential stepping stone in my soul’s development. I had learned what red flags looked like, and what a healthy relationship with myself and others looked like, and I had gained the superpower of laser vision to see what is real. The effects of narcissistic abuse are long-lasting, and while it is absolutely essential to spend time alone after such a toxic relationship, once you enter a new relationship there is still deep healing to be done. You will be learning to trust yourself again, as well as trust the other person, and it may take a while to let your guard down. Having been through this, my mission is to support other people who have been through narcissistic abuse, whatever stage of their journey they are at, and help them to rebuild the healthy self-worth they deserve.

Falling in love with self-development

I used many modalities to heal my psyche, including therapy, coaching, poetry, journalling, and meditation. Even now, I am in love with self-development and the idea of getting to know myself better. I think if every human being took the time to shine a light on their shadows so they can embrace the full embodiment of their true self, the world would be a better place. Along the way I fell in love with RTC, Human Design, Abraham Hicks teachings, and Meditation — all of which I have studied and now teach. I had read every self-help book on the market and used every journaling prompt and meditation available to man by the time I found human design and RTC. What all of the systems I came across had in common is that they are all leading us home to our true self. Whether we call it our soul, our higher selves, our design, source energy, or the real you, doesn’t matter. We are talking about the same thing, and all of these systems are tools to help us see the most real and raw version of ourselves, and step into the power that gives us. Self-worth is gained by understanding who you really are, and accepting yourself with all of your beautiful flaws. As a recovering perfectionist, I promise you that perfection is not a healthy thing to strive for.

Realising that this shit works

Throughout my training what I discovered was that by using RTC techniques on myself, and using it alongside the mechanics of my human design, I transformed more powerfully than I ever had with any other healing work, even though I had already been on a self-development journey for years. So, I decided to combine everything I know to create a program that can truly help people achieve LASTING change and purpose in their life. For a long time I only told half of my story. I left out the part about the narcissistic relationship. However, looking back, that was the key to understanding what self-love was. Without having my self-worth crumbled by another person, I may never have known how important it is to be the only keeper of the keys to your own worth, and I wouldn’t be the strong, empowered, happy woman I am today. For all of these reasons, I feel a calling to use my past to help others.